As I write this, I’m chillin’ with some jazz music as my 11-year-old helps his ninong, my brother—a sound engineer—clean a lot of audio cables, speaker wires, extension cords and the like. I figure this is a good activity for character development, to help my son learn about responsibility and a good work ethic. I overhear his ninong telling him that he’s doing the job well, and quickly at that.
After about an hour, my son finished cleaning all the cables from one big bag. (There were more than 50 cables, I was told.) I’m happy and impressed because: 1) He actually did not complain at all! (I was thinking he might…); 2) He did it excellently: he followed instructions, and even cleaned the trickier and harder parts with much attention to detail; 3) He did not give up and continued till the work was done.
I then asked my son how he felt afterwards, and he said, “Accomplished.”
To me, this is a homeschool win because I’ve been praying for my son to grow in this good trait of responsibility. And so when I overheard that my brother had all these cables to sort and clean, I saw it as a learning opportunity and volunteered my tween to lend a hand. So there.
I think it’s important to celebrate homeschool wins, whether academic or non-academic. Because many times, we can easily lose ourselves in the “am I doing this right” or “I’m not a good enough homeschool mom” or any of that type of self-flagellating inner talk. Of course, there will always be room for improvement, but if we only focus on what we haven’t done yet or what we haven’t done right, we fail to see how far we’ve already come and how much good we’ve already imparted to our kids via the homeschool route. (And hint: homeschool can involve everyone in your immediate and extended family, and even beyond!)
So I encourage you to celebrate your homeschool wins. Think about it: what have you done right in your homeschool this past week? And if no one has told you yet, congratulations! (The fact that you’re homeschooling is already a win in itself!)
Feel free to share in the comments what homeschool wins you had recently. Blessings!
The past few days—Tuesday and Wednesday in particular—I felt some heaviness in my heart. I had been praying about God’s direction, and what He wanted me to do to continue contributing to the homeschool community. The last 6 months of 2018, I was on a roll, with so much momentum. I also began planning for 2019, with goals in place. But then in January, I began to slow down. Since then, I have been praying really hard, to the point of asking God if I should even continue. Thoughts like these began creeping into my head:
Is this really what I should be doing now?
Is this really for me?
Is this really…“me”?
I’m no expert…
Then last week, I saw “heavy-weights” in the homeschooling community on my social media feed, and I blurted out in my mind that I would not continue anymore. Why should I even continue when all these “bigatin” experts are already out there? Then I enumerated in my mind how this person is already doing this, and that person is already doing that, and what else could I contribute? Medyo kaloka…maybe also because I’m at this point called…midlife!
Amid all these weird feelings, I continued to pray for God’s guidance. And then came that sense of heaviness…God began to put a burden on my heart for children. The trigger was this creepy online challenge targeting kids, brainwashing them to do horrifying things. I don’t even want to go into details. This alarmed and disturbed me, and made me angry…it made me angry at all the evil around us. The most vulnerable, the most helpless—the children—the ones who need to be protected the most, they are the ones being attacked!
I realized it was just like it was in the days of Baby Moses, or Baby Jesus, when authorities were out to kill babies. Just like in this day and age, when abortion is legal in several parts of the world, and in one US city, is considered legal up until the day of birth (crazy!!!). Then the abuse, the bullying…and now this creepy online challenge. Many other issues out there put children in harm’s way. It’s a sad and brutal reality.
So yeah, I began to have this sinking feeling. But at the same time, that burden began to brew something else. A stirring of the spirit, if you will. A renewed sense of why we homeschool.
This battle for our children will not be simply won in the same realm of the flesh, in the arena of the world. It has to be constantly fought in the spiritual realm. Let’s consider what the Bible says:
For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. (Ephesians 6:12, NLT)
I use God’s mighty weapons, not those made by men, to knock down the devil’s strongholds. (2 Corinthians 10:4, TLB)
Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. (1 Peter 5:8-9a, NLT)
This is called “spiritual warfare.” In the midst of all our efforts in forming our children according to our faith and values, let us be aware that these are strengthened a hundred times more by a higher power—God’s power. Our enemy seems to be of Goliath proportions, but thanks to our hindsight bias, we already know who gets the upper hand:
David replied to the Philistine, “You come to me with sword, spear, and javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of Heaven’s Armies—the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. Today the Lord will conquer you….” (1 Samuel 17:45, NLT)
The evil one is wreaking havoc and will do whatever he can to bring people to his side. One of his strategies is attacking the basic unit of society: the family. Which is why his blows are aimed towards marriages, parents, and children. But in this one passage, Jesus shows us how He is here to topple the works of the enemy:
“A thief comes only to steal and slaughter and destroy; I came so that they might have life and have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10, NABRE)
I sensed the urgency to share this message with you, and for as long as God gives me something to share and contribute to the homeschooling community, as long as He tells me to keep going in this direction, then I will.
(Just saw my word count, and it’s nearing 800 words. This might be too long a read for you already, so I will continue this message in my next post…)
What are your thoughts so far on fighting for our children in the spiritual realm? Feel free to message me or post in the comments.
Allow me to share with you a “secret power” in our homeschool. This secret power does not come from me, or my husband, or my child, or other people, or in processes and systems. But I believe it is this secret power that has sustained us all through the years.
What is this secret power? Or maybe I should change the question to, WHO is this secret power?
This secret power is…(drum roll)…the Holy Spirit!
Yep, tada! That’s how I’ve been operating—through the power of the Holy Spirit. Without Him in our homeschool, I’d be running around like a headless chicken…it would be kalerks everyday! (Yes, there are still crazy days, but thanks to the Holy Spirit, who corrects my course.)
Who is the Holy Spirit, anyway? Well, we probably know Him in our heads as the Third Person of the Trinity. But did you know that He doesn’t have to remain as some distant Being? Truth be told, He is the presence of Jesus in our midst. The Holy Spirit is our guide, our teacher, is the One who can instruct us in all things. So when we don’t know what to do, when we feel stuck in our homeschool, we can ask for His help!
“But when the Father sends the Advocate as my representative—that is, the Holy Spirit—he will teach you everything and will remind you of everything I have told you.” (John 14:26, NLT)
This gives me so much assurance: He will teach you everything. This means we can rely on Him to help us in teaching our children, He will equip us, He will lead us to the resources that we need at the time we need them, He will guide us to the people who are meant to journey with us at certain seasons…He will even pray for us! Here’s what it says in a Bible passage:
And in the same way—by our faith—the Holy Spirit helps us with our daily problems and in our praying. For we don’t even know what we should pray for nor how to pray as we should, but the Holy Spirit prays for us with such feeling that it cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows, of course, what the Spirit is saying as he pleads for us in harmony with God’s own will. (Romans 8:26-27, TLB)
Isn’t that great to know, that the Holy Spirit Himself also prays for us! Sure, we pray for one another…but when the Holy Spirit prays for us, whoa! You can count on it and begin to see awesome things happening.
Here’s one example. I was super swamped with responsibilities at work (I was still a full-time employee then, and could hardly keep homeschooling consistent. We were also homeschooling independently and would choose our own curriculum). So I prayed and asked the Holy Spirit’s guidance on how to homeschool during this very busy, crazy season. Then during a time of prayer and reflection, He reminded me that we lived just a few minutes away from the library. My son loves to read, so off we walked to the library to borrow some books. He devoured the books and enjoyed them.
It sounds so simple, but my mental bandwidth was so full of things I needed to accomplish at work, I was in dire need of the Holy Spirit’s guidance. And as I gave time to listen to His voice in prayer, He gave me a simple solution: go to the library!
So let me encourage you to begin to tap into this secret power—the Holy Spirit! He will gladly instruct you in your homeschool journey!
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Have you ever asked yourself the questions below while considering homeschool, or even while you’ve been homeschooling for quite some time?
“I fear I’m inadequate and not qualified to teach.”
“I’m scared my child won’t learn enough.”
“Oh no, what if I ruin my child’s future?”
Do these questions make you feel stuck? Or worse, make you feel bad about yourself?
These are 3 common fears that I address in my ongoing free online training series entitled, “Break through Fear & Self-doubt so you can finally Start Homeschooling with Confidence.”
If you are experiencing these feelings, know that you are not alone. We’re all human. It’s normal. The good news is you don’t need to be stuck there.
Fear comes from a place of not knowing, and because we don’t know, our minds start to default towards the negatives, and start to be filled with scenarios of what ifs?
In this context, fear has a way of paralyzing us. Because we don’t know, we’d rather not. We’d rather stay where it’s familiar and avoid what we feel might be too risky. But I know you want to break through these barriers. And in video 2 of this training series, I share some tips on how to address these fears. I also share my best tip ever when it comes to homeschooling. And I also share how one mommy got through these anxieties and was able to homeschool her son with much joy.
If you’d like to check out a video excerpt, click here.
And if you want access to the free training series, click here.
Hope you join me!
Which of these fears have you experienced or are experiencing? What other fear might be holding you back? If you’re already homeschooling, what might be the “What ifs?” in your head? Let me know in the comments. 🙂
I recently released the first of a 3-part-training series entitled “Break through Fear & Self-doubt so you can finally Start Homeschooling with Confidence.” In that video, I share and explain 10 joys of homeschooling that I’ve discovered, and so I’d like to enumerate it here as well. By no means are these the only ones. So here goes:
- You get to develop a strong bond with your child.
- You get to discover more of who your child is.
- You get to instill in your child a love of learning.
- You get to learn with your child.
- You have the freedom and flexibility to choose what’s best for your child and your family, given your situation.
- You get to nurture your child’s interests and talents.
- Your child can go at his or her own pace, eliminating unnecessary stress.
- You get to witness your child’s growth and development.
- You get to have a variety of experiences…because you can.
- You get to grow as a parent.
If you’d like to check out a video excerpt, click here.
If you haven’t yet, you can sign up for this free training series, and also receive a free downloadable PDF. Sign up here.
Hope you join me!
If you’re already homeschooling, which of these joys have you experienced? What else can you add to the list? Let me know in the comments. 🙂